looseyoga

I fell out with my ex in a very public way. I felt completely betrayed and deceived by him, and subsequently underwent therapy. He didn't seem to notice. He's with someone else now (that was the reason we broke up) and still geocaches a lot, but I left another society in order not to have the humiliation of meeting them, and decided to continue geocaching, because I like it. I don't love it. I don't do it obsessively, but I do like finding caches, and I do like the places it takes me to. I cache on my own. I don't go to events because I don't want to meet this couple. I don't have many friends on geocaching. It's been pretty much a solitary activity for me. But when I ask for help now from local geocachers, I get no response. I feel this is unfair. I've suffered enough. I just want to get on with my life. Everyone else raves about what a wonderful community it is. That's not my experience but I don't expect to be treated with contempt. I've had enough of that. Is there anything I can do?

Hi. I've recently had a bad experience as an intimate relationship with someone failed, because that person decided they'd rather have a relationship with someone who's very into this. I was never really into Geocaching, but since I more or less had to leave the other organisation through which I'd met the person, and since I was far from home, I began to cache as a kind of therapy. I made an attempt at friendship with someone who happened to be friends with my ex's new interest, so that was devastating, but I'd love to link up with others who know neither of us. I'm a poet rather than a quant: I prefer words to numbers. But I'm interested in caching, although it raises questions for me. If you'd like to connect, I'm compassionate and kind and I would like to do so.

PlantAKiss isn't the OP. They're asking about a different cache than the OP. Sorry, I was refering to Ernies Mum's post. I can't find members either. I enter their username into the search engine and nothing comes up.

I went to an event today hosted by a regular geocacher, well attended, very well organised. I felt like a sore thumb. I fully appreciated the work, and so on, that goes into hosting an event, but I wish there was some sort of recognition of those of us who feel outsiders at these things. I don't want to get deeply into caching but there are elements that I like: I like finding out about places. I quite like the search, though it's way too technology dependent for me to really enjoy it, since this seems to make it more about what you have technology-wise than what your skill level is. I wanted to log trackables at the event, but I couldn't. I entered the code, the trackable came up, but then it asked what I wanted to do and it just said, log trackable. So I entered the code and it said invalid code. It was the same code. Everyone was so focused on what they were doing that I didn't feel I could ask. I'd already asked and asked. I left. Any advice (apart from not attempting to join a group that makes me feel this uncomfortable)?