I'm a newbie with very few finds. I have met a couple of very nice groups, while caching. It is my belief that this hobby/sport lends itself to attracting people who are generally 'good' people.
If I feel compelled to give an opinion on a subject, I will do so respectfully. If others choose to wiegh my opinion based on my find count, so be it. I trust they have thier reasons for doing so. Either way it has no effect on me or my enjoyment of this hobby.
If I log a DNF and they choose to wait for a more experienced cacher to have trouble, before they check on it, again, so be it. It has no effect on me or my enjoyment of this hobby.
If I place a hide people choose not to search for it based on my numbers, so be it. It has no effect on me or my participation in this hobby.
If you let someone esle's basically irrelevant actions take the fun out of a hobby you enjoy, you have no one to blame but yourself.