Label me "Exhibit A." Last month, my brother set out his first cache (GCTW58). He asked Cache-Tech to hold off posting the listing until the weekend I was going to be in town, so that I'd have a chance at FTF. All weekend long, I kept waiting for the listing to be posted. Being on a fixed schedule, though, we eventually set off after the cache before publication.
As it was his first hide, my brother had arranged all this so that I could "check out" the cache and give feedback on his hide, the rankings assigned, etc. When we got to the cache, we found that it had been muggled during the week that it was out in the wild before publication. So, in that regard, my advance notice allowed us to salvage and re-hide the cache before FTF hunters in the Golden Horseshoe descended upon it. (Interesting aside: How many cache-trashing muggles do you know that leave their name, mailing address and e-mail address in the logbook? This guy did!)
I signed the logbook, and when the listing was published, made an online log. I consider this to be a legitimate find, as I still had to find the actual cache, just like all subsequent cachers will. I did not, and do not, claim it to be a FTF, though. Despite not claiming such either on paper or online, I was not-so-subtlely accused of cheating by the next two finders. They obviously take this FTF thing more seriously than I, and I have since posted a note log explaining the situation and giving credit for the FTF to the first finder after publication (which, paradoxically, makes him the third person or group to actually open the ammo box...).
So, yes, I think it's cheating to claim FTF status when you have foreknowledge, but it's nothing to blow out of proportion. Just like fudging your golf score -- you're only making lies out of your own stats.
WMH.