+addisonbr Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Why would you insist on holding a door if someone tells you they don't want you to? A polite person apologizes for the intrusion and backs off, knowing that the gesture was kindly meant if not kindly received. Insisting on holding a door for someone after she unambiguously tells you she doesn't want you to is not kind. It's an imposition, and it's demeaning. Barking at her that you're doing it because you're a gentleman is just laughable. A gentleman doesn't impose himself on someone like that.Do people actually do this? In the real non-internet world?I don't think that it's unimaginable that someone might say 'I got it' or something similar to let someone know that holding the door for her is unnecessary.Okay, sure, fair enough. To be clear, do people really get that torqued up over somebody holding a door for them? And do people then "bark" at people who don't want doors held open for them? I think witty one-liner put downs is more of a "Winston Churchill urban legend" phenomenon than a real-world thing. I had a TA in college who was blind, and she had an uncomfortable encounter with someone who wanted to help her. She was waiting to cross the street, he tried to help, but in doing so sort of took her arm, she got angry, he got offended and a little angry back (probably amplified with uncomfortable embarrassment), etc. But I don't think that's a typical scenario. Quote Link to comment
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