I guess I'm a "lurker", unless I have a question to ask or a comment to make (like: "Thanks for the help"). I'd rather be caching than lurking though, so i come in only occasionally when I am bored and want to see what's new on the boards.
I haven't noticed much hostility, but i look at the words written...i don't put any hostility into them..they are just words. The authors may or may not be hostile, i wouldn't know...written words are neutral, they only convey the emotions you ascribe to them as you are reading them.
If you picture a smiley that is happy next to one set of words... , you get a different feeling than if you picture a smiley that is frowning. who cares?
who cares?